Why Do We Shout In Anger?
A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples, smiled asked:
“Why do people shout at each other in anger?”
Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, “Because we lose our calm, we shout.”
But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner. asked the saint
Disciples gave some other answers, but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally, the saint explained.
When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance, they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other cover that great distance.
What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either non-existent or very small...
The saint continued, When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper; they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally, they even need not whisper. They only look at each other, that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.
He looked at his disciples and said.
So when you argue, do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.
Since the color of the heart chakra is reddish, when you love someone, you feel the warmth. When you are around people you care for, you feel a loving, warm sensation.
How is your heart temperature towards your loved ones, partner, or friends?
What makes our heart cold is nothing except our own thoughts and emotions.
The happiness of our life depends upon the quality of our thoughts.
Emotions create thoughts, and we may say,” I am bad, or I am feeling good.”
In reality, all are emotional data.
Mindful practice to pause our mind will help us to manage our emotions.
Practice pause your mind:
When you have doubt.
When you are tired.
When you are angry.
When you are stressed.
Wait, take some deep breathing, don’t make any decision, don’t react.
Be aware of your emotion data:
Anger? It’s telling you the path towards what you want is blocked.
Joy? It’s telling you what you need more of in life.
Sadness? It’s telling you something you love has been lost.
Every emotion gives you valuable data about what you want in life and how to get there. Being smarter with this data will lead you to a more harmonious relationship. If you can detect their root cause and accept them as only data, you can find a solution for them.
Acceptance means: “For now, this is what this situation, this moment, requires me to do, and so I do it willingly.” - Eckhart Tolle.
When things change inside you, things change around you.
Holding negative emotions can make life hard and painful.
Always remember like quality attracts like quality energy. What you send around will come to you. Loving-kindness attracts loving kindness. Project and Radiate Loving-Kindness!
“Be still! Bathe in the waters of Love and Bliss!” - Master Choa Kok Sui.