Attaining happiness is a global pursuit. Researchers have found that people from every corner of the world rate happiness more than other desirable personal outcomes, such as obtaining wealth, acquiring material goods, and getting into heaven.
Happiness is a path, not a destination.
Happiness is an elusive state. Philosophers, theologians, psychologists, and even economists have long sought to define it. And since the 1990s, a whole branch of psychology—positive psychology—has been dedicated to pinning it down. More than simply a positive mood, happiness is a state of well-being that encompasses living a good life, one with a sense of meaning and deep contentment.
Philosophers debated the nature of happiness for thousands of years, but scientists have recently discovered that happiness means different things. Three major types of happiness are high life satisfaction, frequent positive feelings, and infrequent negative feelings (Diener, 1984).
Some people experience all three elements of happiness—they are very satisfied, enjoy life, and have only a few worries or other unpleasant emotions. Other unfortunate people are missing all three. Others show a different pattern, for example, who really enjoy life but also experience a lot of stress, anger, and worry. And lastly, some are having fun but also are dissatisfied and believe they are wasting their lives.
Living in a good circumstance is another factor for happiness, but even here, there are exceptions—people who are unhappy while living in an excellent circumstance.
Thus, people can be happy or unhappy because of what is holding in their three mind systems (conscious, unconscious, or subconscious mind systems-Find more in the last post “How to train your old horse”) and the way they think about the world, their conscious system also can be affected by the external circumstances in which they live.
Happiness is an emotion, so it is influenced by the human emotional system, heart chakra, solar plexus chakra, and the emotional body. As has been discussed in the last Article, the mental faculty controls our decisions and actions in the human energy system. By practicing mindful awareness, we can be aware of emotions that we are holding in our emotional system and control them by our mental faculty – Throat chakra, Ajna chakra, Forehead chakra, crown chakra, and the mental body.
When the heart chakra, the center of love, is blocked, we cannot feel love. At the same time, the solar plexus chakra is filled with negative emotions, our Ajna is full of negative thoughts, and Throat is affected by unspoken words. The system is unbalanced and is not working in harmony, affecting our daily lives, especially when unexpected situations happen. The conscious mind will act according to the emotional system. Except for the techniques that remove the blockage of our emotional and mental approach, mindful awareness can help us deal with difficult circumstances; our emotions and thoughts will help us enjoy each moment.
I agree with Roy T. Bennett "Happiness depends on your mindset and attitude. Happiness is in your mind, not in the circumstance". Research indicates that at the subconscious level, the mind tends to focus on the optimistic, while at the conscious level, it tends to focus on the negative. This subconscious bias is similar to the Forer effect. I believe in managing our life it is only we manage our energy, then everything will be in order. Our thoughts and emotions are energy that is lounged in our energy system. By understanding more about how the energy in our chakras are controlling our
life, we can manage our life easier.
Once I was very young, I heard suffering is a choice; I asked myself how it can be accurate. For example, when my finger burns by fire and felt the pain I suffered, but later in my life, I noticed that when I hold that pain in my mind and every moment I review it, it causes real suffering. The pain of an experience is only a negative emotion or memory that is sited in our emotional or mental system, making our unconscious and sub-conscious system. Let us look at the word Nega-tive; Nega literally means ‘in particular a unit of energy saved as a result of conservation measures,” and ‘ive” means tendency. Negative emotion can be some emotional energy which we hold on to, to protect ourselves from repeating the same experience. This can explain why suffering happens when we retain
Forgiveness the key to freedom:
Holding old negative emotions is like lead weights in a balloon; they attach us to our offenders. As we forgive and let go, we will have emotional freedom.
As my spiritual teacher, Master Choa Kok Sui, nicely said, “If you do not forgive, you will continue to think about the offender and the unpleasant event. By forgiving and blessing, you stop wallowing in the mud, and you achieve inner peace and freedom. “
Sometimes our expectations can make us unhappy. If our expectations aren’t based on accurate perception and correct information, the result can be disappointing.
It is important we set our goals or predictions for the future based on the correct analysis.
Collecting correct information is a reflection of the strong and healthy Throat chakra. It is through the use of the throat chakra that a person acquires knowledge and information.
Many of us strive for perfection -- we desire to push ourselves to be our best. But in order to be truly happy, you must embrace the imperfection that is a part of life. Perfection is impossible, and holding ourselves and others to these standards is futile. We will always end up feeling let down. Accepting that life is imperfect and recognizing that there is beauty and grace in that imperfection results from strong Ana and Forehead chakras. These two chakras are the centers for understanding and
intelligent, when these two are strong, the person can see the truth in everything and manage life better.
Find ways to cultivate gratitude on a daily basis. Gratitude is a thankful appreciation for what you have received in life. Those gifts may be tangible or intangible. When you spend time each day acknowledging all that is good in life, you’ll see there is more good than you realize, and you’ll find more blessings.
One of the best things you can do to boost your happiness is just to be yourself. That means not being dependent on the approval of others, but accepting yourself for what you are or as you are and trying to be better, you will enjoy each moment in your life. It is the way that children enjoy life. They have good self-esteem. This power is driving by the Solar plexus and Ajna chakras.
Nothing compares to you:
Stop comparing yourself to everyone around you. Most importantly, stop comparing your things to all the things everyone else has. Social media has a way of making us feel like everyone else has it better than us. How often does scrolling through your newsfeed make you feel negative emotions? Do not allow envy and resentment to take root and robs you of appreciating what you have. You tried hard for each of them.
If you want to be happy, bring happiness to others. Be generous with your time and your money. Give to others in need. Give to those you love and care for. Be a member of a charity. Those who give back have a sense of selflessness and humanitarianism. Those who are generous in spending
money on others tends to have good health, perhaps because giving has a feel-good effect that lowers blood pressure and stress because it activates the heart chakra and increases peace and joy.
Do you hear Pinyin’s “laughing Buddha” story?
Sometimes we believe that if we worry enough, we can keep bad things from happening. But the truth is, you cannot experience joy or even contentment when you’re consumed by worry.
Constantly worrying about everything creates toxic anxiety, where your mind is steeped in negative, spiraling thoughts. Worries plague your mind and make you afraid and apprehensive about things you often have no control over.
Spend time in nature:
Some researchers believe that today’s generation is suffering from a nature-deficit disorder. Studies have shown that the more time we spend in nature, the more we relate to the natural world around us, the greater our sense of happiness. Nature is an abundant source of Chi or Prana. By spending more time in nature and taking fresh foods, we help the energy body clean itself and be more balanced. It creates a sense of joy and satisfaction in us.
Find your work-life balance:
Work takes up a lot of our day, but it shouldn’t be the only thing we do. It’s important to pursue activities and interests beyond our job. Do you have a hobby? Are you spending time with friends and loved ones? Are you getting exercise? Creating balance in your life will reduce stress and give you other outlets to express yourself and have fun.
People respond to numbered scales to indicate their levels of satisfaction, positive feelings, and lack of negative emotions. You can see where you stand on these scales by filling out the Flourishing Scale below. These measures will give you an idea of what popular scales of happiness are like.
Time to Assess your life satisfaction:
You can click on the link below to attend quick Life Satisfaction and Flourishing Assessment:
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