Updated: Nov 25, 2020
A good relationship always comes from a good self-relationship.
May you have heard about:
As above, so below; as below, so above. As within, so without; as without, so within.
You are correlated with the whole world.
What will happen you don’t have a good relationship with yourself. How will be your relationship with people and with the universe?
A good relationship is not only about feeling love and joy, but also it determines our successes in life.
The importance of having a good relationship we can find in the words of Theodore Roosevelt. According to him:
“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”
Of course, Positive and supportive relationships will help us feel healthier, happier, and more satisfied with our lives and help us be successful. But! Can you have a good relationship with others while you don’t have a good relationship with yourself?
Do you have a Good Self-Relationship?
Good Self-relationship is the fundamental of micro-macro cosmos connection.
Some of us in our daily life are not acting according to our true selves. They are disconnected from themselves. Some people prefer to follow the standards fixed by society, family, or friends; in fact, they are living others’ brains. What separates us from our true selves can be called a
lack of self-acceptance.
1. Self-acceptance is the first step toward a good self-relationship:
Self-acceptance means to be yourself, allowing yourself to be truly seen for who you are. An absence of self-acceptance and self-esteem increases the volume of our negative thoughts. You begin to have inner- conversations with yourself about how you can change to fit in or become more grounded or excellent. The issue with this is, it moves you further away from what you truly need, what you have faith in, and what you esteem throughout everyday life. What’s more, that is the point at which you become stuck, miserable, and doing things you would prefer not to do.
“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves” -Dalai Lama.
Lack of self-acceptance is a wrong pattern shaped through life experiences from childhood or in society. To learn to have a good relationship with yourself need a daily practice to change the old pattern and believe in new ones. For this, you need to be brave in bringing recent changes in your life.
Start from now, take a deep breath; building a new version of yourself can be challenging, for it you only need to take a few steps, like Knowing your incredible qualities, skills, and power.
Don’t wait for other people to tell you about your incredible aspects. Most of the time, they remind us more about our problems rather than good things because they believe we are aware of our good qualities.
2. Find yourself: