We all know what anger is, and we have all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. Here is how to smile while you feel the anger.
The Nature of Anger:
Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion but it is important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships. Like other emotions, it is accompanied by physiological and biological changes; when you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and nor adrenaline.
What are the emotions behind anger?
Anger is a reaction to an unexpected condition that is against a person desire or expectation, but how much this expectation is correct or valid it depends on his/her emotional and mental health - anger as a protector of raw feelings. According to Paul Ekman's research, anger is one of the six "basic emotions" identified in the Atlas of Emotions along with disgust, fear, happiness, sadness, surprise. Everyone feels anger at one point or another, and it is entirely valid as to its own emotion.
There are three main approaches that people try to control their anger:
These are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive, not aggressive manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make precise what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive does not mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others. Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.